“When there’s a will, there’s a way.” This is an expression from my grandmother Nettie said my whole childhood. It was usually followed by, “God wants us to prosper.” I knew she didn’t mean that just financially. She meant that anything worth having or doing requires effort, which eventually will be rewarded. I hear her words playing in my head, especially as I try to plan a formal wedding in less than four months.

I wasn’t a girl who dreamed of a fairytale wedding or a wedding at all. I figured I’d marry at some point but I always hope to split the difference. Meaning I always figured I’d get married later in life. I thought this would give me the chance to spend a large part of my life “single” so I could focus on me without being selfish. Well, now I’ve officially joined with someone else so it’s time to celebrate. To do that, I’m discussing things that I generally don’t think or care about. But, for some reason, the finer details are important because I want the day to reflect our story, our life together and our future.

When I doubt whether there’s enough time to accomplish my goals, I remember that my grandmother Nettie also told me, “doing something quick doesn’t mean not doing it right.” So, it will be a tight squeeze to accomplish all that I want but it will be completed on time, well and a good time will be had by all. Day 8’s sweater for my Christmas countdown reflects my struggle.

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