Last night while I was out to dinner with my husband, the waiter brought strawberry ice cream with a candle in it to our intimate two person table. My husband was grinning from ear to ear when he told me to, “blow out the candle and make a wish.”

For more than a half a century, I have said the same thing. I’d mumble, “dear God please allow me to live as long as I can, as well as I can, and live as deeply as I can. Let me the best daughter, sister, aunt, godmother, friend, and partner that I can. And, allow me to make it quickly and smoothly through work, pursue my dreams, maintain my health and fulfill my purpose.”

Yesterday, I didn’t close my eyes. I didn’t mumble anything. I said aloud, “I don’t have a wish this year.”

Stunned my husband leaned over and gently blew out the candle for me.

I realized I’ve made wishes for more than half a century. I’m old enough to know that wishing alone doesn’t prompt change. Action is required. 

I have plans for whatever time lies ahead of me. I will continue to pray to God for guidance and assistance. But I will take more initiative to do things that turn my wishes into reality. 

On day 18 of my Christmas sweater countdown, I chose “All I Want For Christmas Is More PTO.” I will make more of an effort to use and enjoy my paid time  off so I can relax, work on creative projects like finishing two books I started writing and spend time with loved ones. 

“Do you still make birthday wishes?”

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